The Power of Recurring Moments: Why the Little Things Matter Most.

Life is made up of big milestones weddings, birthdays, retirements, graduations, but more often than not, it’s the recurring moments that shape us. The moments that repeat. The ones we count on. The ones we don’t notice until they’re gone. And sometimes, the ones that remind us that kindness still matters, deeply and without a price tag.

Let me explain about what got me thinking about this I was listening to a podcast driving down the road and I can’t remember what it was but this gentleman starts talking about recurring moments, he goes on to say this .

Think of something simple, like your monthly dog food delivery from Chewy. You’ve got it on auto-ship. It’s convenient, predictable, reliable—just one less thing to worry about in a very chaotic world. Until one month, your dog passes away. The heartbreak is fresh, raw, and real. You call Chewy to cancel. They say, “We understand. We’ll refund your order, but please donate the food to a local shelter we can’t take it back for health reasons.”

And just when you think that’s it, the next day, a bouquet of flowers shows up at your doorstep with a sympathy card. From Chewy. A company. Not a friend. Not family. A company you only knew because they dropped a box at your door once a month. That’s the thing about recurring moments they create a connection. They build trust. They allow space for care to sneak in.

That act? That small, unexpected kindness? It stays with you.

Another example:

Think of the barista who remembers your order every morning the one who starts your vanilla latte before you’ve even made it to the counter. Or the neighbor who waves every morning as you both leave for work at the same time. Or the coworker who always checks in at 3 p.m. to ask if you need a stretch break or a cookie. These aren’t grand gestures, but they’re grounding ones. Recurring moments that tether us to each other in the quietest, most meaningful ways.

These routines, these repetitions, they matter because they form the fabric of our emotional lives. When life feels like it’s unraveling, it’s often these small threads that hold us together. When someone disappears from our life a pet, a partner, a parent it’s not just the big memories we grieve, it’s the loss of those little constants: the morning walk, the goodnight text, the Sunday calls.

Kindness, reliability, thoughtfulness they don’t shout. They whisper. But those whispers build trust, relationships, and healing.

So here’s the takeaway: be someone’s recurring moment. Send the text. Smile at the front desk clerk. Remember someone’s coffee order. Follow up after a hard day. Not because it’s a transaction, but because it’s a connection.

Chewy didn’t send flowers to get a five-star review. They did it because somewhere in that company, someone decided that humanity doesn’t stop when the order gets canceled.

Let’s all be a little more like that.

Because in the end, life isn’t made up of the few big days it’s made up of a million recurring moments. And how we show up for them is who we really are.