Are You 40+ and Wondering… What Is Going On With Me?
If you’re over 40 and suddenly finding yourself asking questions you never used to ask, welcome. You’re not lost. You’re not broken. You’re not behind. You’re awake.
One minute you’re folding laundry, answering emails, making dinner,and the next you’re staring into space thinking:
Is this the life I’m meant to be living?
Is this just a phase… or a shift?
Why do I see everything so differently now?
And maybe the biggest question of all:
What is going on with me?
Here’s the honest answer, a lot of beautiful, unsettling, powerful things.
Yes, You’re Changing—and That’s Not a Crisis
Somewhere around 40 (and definitely beyond it), something clicks. Or cracks. Or cracks open.
You start to feel less interested in proving and more interested in peace.
Less focused on pleasing and more focused on truth.
Less tolerant of noise, chaos, and nonsense.
This isn’t a breakdown. It’s a breakthrough.
You’re no longer willing to live on autopilot. And that can feel confusing when you’ve spent decades doing exactly what you were “supposed” to do.
Is It Growth? Or Is It Discomfort?
Both.
Growth rarely arrives wrapped in clarity. It usually shows up as restlessness. Irritation. Fatigue. A quiet dissatisfaction you can’t quite name.
You may feel:
Unmotivated by things that once mattered
Drawn to different people, ideas, or careers
Emotionally fuller, yet more sensitive
Stronger, but less patient
That’s not regression. That’s evolution.
Career Shifts, Identity Shifts, Soul Shifts
Many women at this stage start asking:
Do I really want to do this for another 10, 15, 20 years?
It doesn’t mean you hate your job.
It means you’re craving alignment.
You’re realizing time is valuable, and you want your energy to mean something. Whether that leads to a career pivot, a side passion, a creative outlet, or simply doing your current work differently, the question itself is the signal.
Yes, the World Feels Different,Because You Are
Politics. Society. Relationships. Expectations.
You’re seeing things through clearer eyes now. You’ve lived enough to recognize patterns, hypocrisy, and performative behavior. You’ve learned where your boundaries are, and where they should have been all along.
As women, we’re also living differently than our mothers did:
We’re working longer
Loving differently
Parenting differently
Aging differently
Speaking up more boldly
Of course it feels strange. You’re part of a generation rewriting the rules while still living inside them.
This Is the Season of Asking Better Questions
You’re not asking, What do they expect of me?
You’re asking, What do I expect of myself?
You’re not wondering how to fit in.
You’re wondering where you actually belong.
And that’s powerful.
So What’s Going On With You?
You’re shedding versions of yourself that no longer fit.
You’re recalibrating your values.
You’re honoring your intuition instead of overriding it.
You’re becoming more you,not less.
And yes, it can feel lonely at times. Growth often does.
But here’s the truth no one says loudly enough:
This is the most honest chapter yet.
You’re not late.
You’re right on time.
And if you’re asking these questions?
It means something inside you is waking up,and it’s worth listening to.
Bright, bold, and beautifully becoming.
